Traits of toxic people and traits of TRUE friends ahead! Letting go of unhealthy friendships is hard, I know but this will tell you how to know if you have a toxic friend or person in your life.
What is a toxic friend?
💀 They pop up from time to time. Occasionally long-time friendships turn toxic.
So what is the definition of a toxic friend? What are some toxic traits of women? Of men? Of EVERYONE!? 💬
👯 How do you know that a friend just isn't going through a hard time and is taking it out on you? Releasing friends isn't so easy...toxic or not. I treasure my friendships and they're the backbone of who I am today...
It's hard letting go but there are some spotlight traits you can use to help you come to a conclusion that supports your mental, emotional and physical health. 👌
The definition of a toxic person is literally anyone who repeatedly makes you go, "W-T-F..." while you shake your head in disbelief, shock or disappointment.
5 Toxic Friend (& Family) Traits
Get ready to put your people to the test. Who needs to stay and who needs a break or be shown the door...
1. One-Sided Friendship 🙋
This person...
Makes you feel like you're giving more than you're getting
You're repeatedly the first to call and text
Rarely invites you out
Barely accepts your invites
Forgets to call/text you back regularly
True Friend Trait is:
RECIPROCITY:
equality in the relationship
calls/texts you as much as you call/text them
equally accept each other's bids for connection
general understanding that life gets in the way but it doesn't impact your relationship
2. Emotional Rollercoaster 🎢
This person...
Is an "AskHole": asks for your advice and does the opposite
Drags you into their drama when you're trying to be supportive
Is regularly in Full Crisis Mode
Talks sh*t behind your back and you know it
Calls you to cry more than they call you to check-in
True Friend Trait is:
EMPATHETIC:
asks and applies your reliable advice
there in crisis and celebration
always speaks compassionately about you
3. Needs You For Everythingggggggg 🙈
This person...
Owes you money and STILL asks to borrow more
Calls to consult you before having tough conversations with others
Feels alienated if you don't check-in everyday
Delegates responsibility in an inappropriate way at work/home
Whines and complains all-the-time
True Friend Trait is:
SELFLESS:
respects your boundaries
can read when you're overwhelmed or want space
compassionate about your needs
goes out of their way for you without expecting anything in return
4. Hate Being Around Them & You're Happy When They Leave 👋
This person...
Makes you go, "uggghhhhh" when you see them calling/texting
Immediately makes you anxious when you see them
Has a competitive nature that drains you
Behaves arrogantly and better than you
You sigh in absolute relief when they leave
True Friend Trait is:
TEAM PLAYER:
knows their strengths and weaknesses
adaptable and goes with the flow
equally accept each other's bids for connection
general understanding that life gets in the way but it doesn't impact your relationship
5. The Negativity & Criticism (of everything) Never Stops 🙉
This person...
Takes ZEROOOO responsibility for their actions
Makes their opinion known and has something to say about everything
Brings down the energy in the group
Cries and makes excuses when confronted about their negativity
Becomes envious and will try to manipulate others to get what they want
True Friend Trait is:
CONFIDENT:
finds the best in others
identifies when use a censored opinion
raises the group energy level
knows how and when to say "no" effectively
If you liked this article, check out one of my favorites: How Do I Communicate My Feelings, FFS??
Hit the ❤ RED HEART ❤ for me on this post and share it with your friends so they can get help identifying the relationships holding them back.
XOXO,
Kristy Clarke
TL;DR: Toxic friends have a one-sided relationship, send you on emotional rollercoasters, need you for everything, hate to see them and happy to watch them leave, and are super negative.
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